Happy Sunday to everyone ~ I felt the need to gre..

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Happy Sunday to everyone ~
I felt the need to greet everyone as I also feel that I have been somewhat distant here and I guess I just want to explain and possibly get some feedback.
Since I started down my spiritual journey several years ago I have learned so much and realize that there is always so much more to learn along the way. It has been exciting and challenging and I have felt the changes happening in myself (my feelings and thought processes).
While this is great it has also been the cause of some marital stress between my husband and I. He is supportive of me and does not try to hinder me in any way yet there is a clear division between us when it comes to our beliefs (he doesn't subscribe to any faith or spiritual belief).
In my own eagerness and excitement to share some of the things that I am learning and going through he sometimes feels pressured and that causes him to either get defensive or shut me down. At the same time he also tells me that he feels like I am leaving him out if I DON'T share things with him. This has been the cause of several arguments and has left me very confused about what and how to communicate with him enough but not too much.
It sometimes takes my brain awhile to figure certain things out but it finally dawned on me that I need to structure my time better and allow for my own personal time to connect to my spiritual side and then also allow for personal time with my husband that does not involve me talking about all that. Only if he asks about something in particular...
I never thought of this until now because I was trying not to isolate myself from my husband while reading, listening, writing, etc, but now I understand that it is necessary to draw a line between these two parts of my life in order to allow time and attention to each while also keeping the peace, if you will.
I'm mostly sharing this because I know that in my state of mild depression (feelings of sadness, defeat, guilt and anxiety) that I have not been as active on this site nor in completing my current lesson (I've been on lesson 13 for MONTHS).
I bought a new sitting chair to put in the room where I keep my altar table and have told my husband that I am dedicating a couple hours to my spiritual practice every Monday evening or another day of the week if something comes up. I already have private time each morning on the weekends and will also incorporate about a half hour each of those days for more in depth spiritual work as well. He understands that these are structured times but that there are other events that may fall outside of these times that I will also participate in.
I feel that this is a good move in the right direction and to ensure that I do not fall off my spiritual path but that I also do not cause unnecessary stress in my marriage.
Anyway, I feel much better even now just to have shared this. I hope for the best with these changes that I'm making and so looking forward to getting back into the groove!
Thanks to all here that are always so supportive and help to bring my energy up just by being out there!

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*big hugs to you* It is very tricky to try to walk the fine line between how to share just enough but not too much about subjects we are passionate about with our loved ones. I know your husband would like to be completely open to everything that is important to you, and patient while you gush about it, but being human, we aren't always able to react the way we would like and I suspect he is struggling with his own issues about that. I think your plan to make time for your self for your spiritual work/your personal time which we all deserve and need, is an excellent one! Maybe after your private time you can choose something you learned or experienced to share with your husband that you think he might connect with? Something simple, easy to relate with, no pressure. You say he isn't spiritual, but interestingly, there is a connection between magick and science. You might consider looking at how we create our own reality (do magick) explained by Quantum Physics. I can point you in that direction, if you think that is a view that might be interesting to your husband. As an aside, we are having similar communication problems here at home, and I believe this is pretty widespread these days, because of global events, universal events, and general energy increases brought on by required growth. I believe we are in the metaphorical Spring, once again, of our intended Evolution, which means we are all popping out of the ground, looking around, and figuring out what comes next. Change is upon us and it is very unsettling. I am going to post an article that discusses the Bigger Picture of what we are all being affected by at this time, so maybe you will know that you are not alone in this. I believe all sentient beings right now are feeling that low-grade depression; but we are meant to come together as one, and hopefully these events will do that in the end, so you are in the right place, at the right time, and you keep on truckin' forward and you will see success! I hold you close and give you big hugs and send much love to you. xoxo Tala

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*big hugs to you* It is very tricky to try to walk the fine line between how to share just enough but not too much about subjects we are passionate about with our loved ones. I know your husband would like to be completely open to everything that is important to you, and patient while you gush about it, :) but being human, we aren't always able to react the way we would like and I suspect he is struggling with his own issues about that. I think your plan to make time for your self for your spiritual work/your personal time which we all deserve and need, is an excellent one! Maybe after your private time you can choose something you learned or experienced to share with your husband that you think he might connect with? Something simple, easy to relate with, no pressure. :) You say he isn't spiritual, but interestingly, there is a connection between magick and science. You might consider looking at how we create our own reality (do magick) explained by Quantum Physics. :) I can point you in that direction, if you think that is a view that might be interesting to your husband. As an aside, we are having similar communication problems here at home, and I believe this is pretty widespread these days, because of global events, universal events, and general energy increases brought on by required growth. I believe we are in the metaphorical Spring, once again, of our intended Evolution, which means we are all popping out of the ground, looking around, and figuring out what comes next. Change is upon us and it is very unsettling. I am going to post an article that discusses the Bigger Picture of what we are all being affected by at this time, so maybe you will know that you are not alone in this. I believe all sentient beings right now are feeling that low-grade depression; but we are meant to come together as one, and hopefully these events will do that in the end, so you are in the right place, at the right time, and you keep on truckin' forward and you will see success! I hold you close and give you big hugs and send much love to you. xoxo Tala

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